Quotes That Guide My Philosophy & Approach to Working With Clients
Everyone needs a philosophy of life. Mental health is based on the tension between what you are and what you think you should become. You should be striving for worthy goals. Emotional problems arise from being purposeless.
-Victor Frankl (1970)
Strange is our situation here upon earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to divine a purpose.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.
When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves.
-Viktor E. Frankl
Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble. Yehuda Berg
The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. George Bernard Shaw
We must take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel
When I use a word,' Humpty Dumpty said in rather a scornful tone, 'it means just what I choose it to mean - neither more nor less.
Talking isn't doing. It is a kind of good deed to say well; and yet words are not deeds.
Deed, not words shall speak me.
Hurt not others with that which pains yourself.
-Buddhism, Udanavarga 5:18
Of all possessions a friend is the most precious.
Adolescents are not monsters. They are just people trying to learn how to make it among the adults in the world, who are probably not so sure themselves.
Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don't realize what messages they are sending.
Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible - the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.
Life is not what it's supposed to be. It's what it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference.
The more you know yourself, the more patience you have for what you see in others.
Children love and want to be loved and they very much prefer the joy of accomplishment to the triumph of hateful failure. Do not mistake a child for his symptom.
The only thing that can save us as a species is seeing how we're not thinking about future generations in the way we live.
We are what we love.
We already have the tools within us...
" The goal is for us to integrate our use of all 3 brains (heart, head, gut). We must not only listen to all 3 voices of our intellect; we must also gain a greater understanding of the intellectual power imbalances that exist between them. Only then can we identify and repair the roadblocks that interfere with accessing the full wisdom within each of us.”
Marc Richter, LICSW, LADC